Conversations as a way to learn

14 Jan

I have a love-hate relationship when it comes to having conversations with my kids.

Okay, maybe not so much hate, but definitely annoyance—especially when the conversation drags on longer than it should. This often happens when there's a tight schedule, when I’m trying to move on to the next thing on my to-do list, or when I’m just mentally drained and craving a few moments of silence. I’m sure I’m not the only one feeling like this, right?

But at the same time, I see so much value in these conversations. You know, they really are the best way to support kids in their learning and growth as individuals. Some of the most amazing moments I’ve had with my kids have come simply from making the time for meaningful conversations.

Here are my three reasons why:

1) Creates Personal Connections to Learning

Discussions with kids are often spontaneous, child-directed, and inspired by real-life observations or topics from books.

I still remember reading a story about emperor penguins with my kids. It sparked all sorts of curious questions that turned into a rich, diverse conversation about reproduction and birth, Antarctica and climate change, and even marriage and commitment!

These connections help kids retain information longer and find relevance and meaning in what they’re learning.

2) Encourages Creative and Critical Thinking

Conversations naturally lead to questions and answers, pushing children to think critically and creatively.

One example that comes to mind is when my little ones got curious about the waste management process after spotting a garbage truck that collected recyclables. This curiosity led to a discussion about the different types of waste, the long-term implications of excessive waste on Earth, and even a brainstorming session on how we can better protect our planet.

When they ask “why” or “how,” they’re practicing ideation, problem-solving, and connecting new information to what they already know.

3) Strengthens Emotional Intelligence

One thing I often find sorely lacking in the education system is the emphasis on cultivating emotional and social intelligence. While there are opportunities for children to develop these skills in various settings, there’s limited guidance on how to do so. And this is exactly why conversations at home matter even more.

I remember when my older daughter shared news about a plane crash she’d heard about while watching the news at her grandparents’ house. She described how family members had gathered at the airport to receive updates and how many were filled with grief. This became an opportunity for us to explore the emotions the various stakeholders might be feeling and to grow in empathy together.

Heartfelt conversations like these teach children to recognize, express, and navigate emotions. When parents respond empathetically, they model how to handle feelings, fostering emotional regulation and awareness in their children.

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So yes, sometimes it feels like I’m swimming against the tide, but those conversations are worth it. They’re shaping the little humans my kids are becoming—and, honestly, they’re shaping me too.

What’s the last conversation you had with your child?